Go to some gay pride places, Meet some other gay people, meet men through other men, & everything will be fine, You will find someone to love you for yourself.

awww that’s cute….. even though it took you 41 years to finally except a simple truth. It’s still cute nevertheless

I would do a lot of things.

1) Go to a few gay bars and just chill out there. Find out which nights are active and which are slow. Either ask the bartender or maybe someone at the bar will be good enough to fill you in. Ask about gay events in your community. Bars are a good way to meet people but they should not be your only way. Many gays don’t go out often and some people don’t like the culture. But I would at least know where they are and what they are like and become familiar with them.

2) Pick up gay literature and read through it. At a gay bar or a gay friendly coffee house or laundry mat or video store or what ever – there are usually gay publications. Most are free and filled with advertisements. But you can learn what events might be going on. Is there a gay film festival some time during the year? A gay chorus? Is there a gay lesbian community center near you? If there is not one near you – is there one with in a few hours? What gay non profits are in your area? Are there any gay friendly churches in your area – or is there an MCC (metropolitan community church – a church that started 40 years ago in the US with a focus on the glbt community).

3) Hang out at a gay friendly coffee house once in a while.

4) Try a few adds in craigslist.

I have advised you to find out about gay chorus’s, non profits, film festivals and community centers for a good reason. These are gay events outside of the sphere of the bar scene. Volunteer for a gay charity once in a while. Make the effort to attend a social or two at a gay community center if you are lucky enough to have one in your area.

Don’t just rely on bars, but incorporate them.