Why are some people such ass holes.

Okay lets get started.

First date don’t expect anything out of it. Go with the intention of having fun. Think of it as going out with friends. If you think you are going to hold hands, or be making out or have sex at the end of the night then you are going to freeze up. You want to get to know her and if you have fun while doing that it will show through. It should be just as easy as hanging out with friends. I like to kid around with my friends so on the first date i kid around with the girl I do tune it down a bit.

Next remember why you are there. If you treat the entire date like hanging out with friends then you will probable end up friends. You need to probe deeper with the questions you ask.
Here are some good topics to through in with the rest of the conversation.
1)talk about family (Don’t spend a lot of time on mom or dad talk more about family dynamic. I’m close to my brother, my sister does this …)
2)talk about growing up as a kid
3)go deeper then you would with friends. You have feelings right? Sure you do.
For you because this is your first date, don’t bring up past relationships yet because you don’t have any. On the second or third date you can start talking about the fact you’ve never dated before.

Last, if you are going on a blind date or meeting a girl from the internet. Shake her hand when you meet her and give her a hug when you say good night. If you know her or have talked to her a bit give her a hug when you first meet her. Now this is personal preference, but I don’t kiss on the first date. I don’t want to be worrying about what is going to happen at the end of the night. When you feel comfortable go in for the kiss you will be able to tell how she feels about it. Go slow if she isn’t feeling it she can turn her cheek and you can kiss her on the check instead.

The hardest part is getting the second date. So before you even go on the first date think of something you might like to do on a second date. If the date goes well at the end of the night bypass playing telephone tag over the next couple of days. Say I really enjoyed sharing the evening with you and would like to see you again. I’m busy the next couple of days, but how about we go to dinner at … and listen to the live music on Wed. night.

Go pick up a dating book, not a how to get laid book a dating book. It will help explain a lot of what I just told you to do and give you reasons and examples of why it works that way.

Good luck